Loveleaf

We have all heard the phrase: “Relationships are hard work.” We hear it in podcast episodes, read it in self-help books, and repeat it to ourselves when things get rocky. And to a large degree, it’s true. Bringing two distinct lives together under one shared narrative is no small feat. Yet, somewhere along the line, we seem to have conflated "hard work" with "unnecessary complexity." We have started treating everyday interactions like high-stakes tactical chess matches, dissecting every text, tone, and pause for hidden meaning. I’ve been pondering this a lot lately. About a week ago, I stumbled upon a Facebook page called Collectively Married . Out of curiosity, I started watching the reels and scrolling through the feed. Despite its simple bio, the page quickly proved to be a goldmine of wisdom—a refreshingly grounded space for anyone who wants to approach love with genuine intentionality. Immersing myself in that content served as a gentle, much-needed wake-up cal...

There is a particular kind of frustration that comes with wanting a godly relationship and watching everyone around you seemingly move ahead. Someone you went to school with is getting married. A former colleague is announcing their engagement. Your younger cousin is posting maternity photos. Your friends are moving into the next stages of life while you are still wondering, “Lord, when will it be my turn?” You pray. You wait. You try to remain hopeful. But sometimes, if you are honest, you wonder whether God has forgotten you. For many Christian singles, the desire for marriage is not the problem. The difficult part is navigating the waiting season without becoming discouraged, desperate, or passive. The truth is that waiting on God does not mean waiting without purpose. Godly dating is not a race One of the biggest mistakes we make is treating relationships like a competition. Someone got married at 25, so we assume we should have married by 25. Someone met their spouse a...