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Picture of Ashubwe Zadock Jebel One of the greatest schools is the school of life. It is free but gives real and very expensive lessons, right from the environment we are in, people, failure, self, and even success carries it is own lessons. As I turn a year older, here are a few lessons I have been able to pick. 1. Nobody is coming to save you. At some point, you have to take responsibility for your own life. People may support you, advise you, pray for you and walk with you but there are battles you must decide to face yourself. 2. You can lose what you once thought you could never live without. Life will sometimes strip you of people, opportunities, possessions, relationships and things you deeply valued. Don't be dismayed. You can rebuild. As long as you don't give up, your story isn't over. 3. If you are willing to change, you are never truly stuck. Sometimes the breakthrough isn't waiting for a change of circumstances; it's waiting for a change in ...

The season of waiting in singlehood is often misunderstood as a passive holding room—a neutral space where nothing of significance happens while you wait for your life to begin. However, from a kingdom perspective, waiting is never empty time; it is active preparation. Before God brings two lives together in a lasting covenant, He does an intentional, deep work inside both individuals. God rarely brings your "person" into your life to fix your issues, fill your void, or complete your identity. Instead, He prepares you to become the right partner first. If you have been wondering whether your season of waiting is drawing to a meaningful transition, pay attention to the internal shifts happening within your heart, mind, and spiritual walk. Here are 10 clear, practical, and spiritual signs that God is preparing you for your person. 1. A Shift from Anxious Urgency to Deep Internal Peace One of the clearest indicators that God is aligning your heart for a godly relationship is the...

  Beyond the Prayer Request: The Hidden Battle for Sexual Purity and How to Win It Returning home after a long journey always brings a sense of clarity. Walking back into the familiar rhythm of daily life gives you space to reflect on the conversations, struggles, and quiet burdens people carry. Recently, amidst the constant flow of prayer requests for breakthroughs, healing, and spiritual strength, one underlying theme keeps resurfacing—a battle that many suffer through in silence: the fight for sexual purity. This is not a message of condemnation. It is an honest look at the other side of the coin. We live in a culture that loves to pray away problems, but when it comes to habitual sin and deeply rooted triggers, prayer alone is only part of the equation. Some battles must be confronted head-on. If you do not conquer them at the root, they will continuously return, much like how a relapse happens especially the moment an old trigger presents itself. To be honest we ar...

There is a single lady out there whose daily prayer goes something like this: "Lord, please let me marry a pastor, an apostle, an evangelist, a preacher... or at the very least, a pastor's kid." Especially those men standing right at the front of the church, serving faithfully every single Sunday. To her, the rest of us normal guys standing in the back do not even qualify to be on her radar. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having standards or personal preferences. In fact, knowing the kind of marriage you are praying for is both healthy and wise. Clarity in prayer is powerful. But here is a gentle reminder worth holding onto: do not become so fixed on a title that you miss the character. A title can sit on a mantle, but character is what lives with you in the living room when the Sunday service is over. The Danger of Confusing Platform with Purpose It is easy to romanticize public ministry. We see a man standing behind a pulpit, speaking with conviction...

  We often talk about love in terms of feelings; the spark, the chemistry, the comfort of having someone to share your days with. But beneath the surface of romance lies a far more critical reality: the person you choose to date will radically alter the trajectory of your life. A relationship is never neutral. It is dynamic, moving, and influential. It either acts as a launching pad that propels you toward your life's purpose, or it acts as an anchor that drags you down into distraction, doubt, and self-abandonment. Ask yourself an honest question today: How is your purpose in life being influenced, elevated, or eroded by the person you’re dating? Are they helping you become a better version of yourself, or are you slowly losing who you are just to keep them? The Subtle Trap of Self-Abandonment Self-abandonment rarely happens overnight. It doesn't usually begin with a dramatic decision to throw away your dreams for another person. Instead, it happens gradually—one small, quiet ...

  There is something undeniably magnetic about the turning of a calendar page. Each new month carries an unwritten script, a fresh breath of air, and an invitation to reset. But as the warmth of late summer settles in and we step into August, the shift feels a little deeper, a little more deliberate. It has been said time and again in biblical tradition and biblical numerology that the number eight carries a powerful weight—it represents renewal, restoration, and new, meaningful beginnings. It is the sound of a fresh page turning, a spiritual reset button, and an opportunity to step into the unknown with renewed vision. So, here we are. Boots tacked in. Armor securely in place. Ready to scale new heights, conquer old doubts, and step boldly into everything this season has in store. Yet, as ready as we might feel to march forward, true strength doesn't come from our own sheer willpower or the toughness of our armor. It comes from where we anchor our hearts before the journey even be...

One question that has become increasingly common in today's dating conversations is this: "What do you bring to the table?" Depending on who asks it, this question can either spark a healthy discussion or ignite a heated debate. Some people ask it out of genuine curiosity because they want to understand what their potential partner will contribute to the relationship. Others ask it as a way of measuring someone's worth, almost like a job interview. The truth is, there is nothing wrong with asking what someone brings into a relationship. Every healthy relationship should involve two people who are willing to contribute emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and practically. However, before we ask that question, we should also remember that relationships are never one-sided. Both people are making investments and sacrifices that deserve recognition. Let us dive into some reality checks. A Woman Is Also Looking for Value Just as many men desire a woman who will ...

"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." — Proverbs 4:23 Being a single mother comes with a unique blend of strength, sacrifice, and responsibility. Every day, you make decisions that affect not only your future but also the lives of your children. When it comes to dating, this reality means you cannot afford to approach relationships carelessly. Unfortunately, many single mothers enter the dating world carrying invisible burdens. Some battle rejection from previous relationships. Others wrestle with guilt, fear, or the belief that their opportunities for love have somehow diminished because they have children. That belief is one of the greatest lies you can believe. Your value did not decrease because your relationship status changed. Your worth is not measured by your past, your age, or whether you have children. Your worth comes from God, who created you with dignity and purpose. Healthy relationships begin with healthy sel...

There was a time when I deliberately avoided speaking publicly about sexual purity. The conviction burned within my heart, but I hesitated. Not because I doubted the message, but because I questioned how people would receive it. As a man, I wondered whether society would accept someone boldly championing chastity in an age where sexual freedom is celebrated and purity is often mocked. I wrestled with questions like: * Will people think I'm old-fashioned? * Will they misunderstand my motives? * Will anyone even listen? For a long time, those questions kept me quiet. The Message Was Never Meant to Stay Hidden Initially, I convinced myself that this message was only for my own personal journey. I believed God was simply teaching me how to live a life of purity. But over time, I realized something important. When God entrusts you with truth, He rarely intends for you to keep it to yourself. Ironically, thinking the message was only for me became another form of pride. Pride...

Sexual purity is more than avoiding sex. It is learning to honor God with your body, your mind, your relationships, and your choices. For teenagers and young adults, navigating sexuality can be difficult. We live in a culture where sexual content is everywhere. Movies, music, social media, advertisements, conversations, dating apps, and even casual jokes can normalize sexual activity and make abstinence appear outdated, unrealistic, or impossible. Yet the Bible presents a different vision. Biblical sexual purity is not rooted in fear, shame, or the idea that sex is dirty. Rather, Scripture presents sexual intimacy as something valuable and powerful that belongs within the covenant of marriage. For a young person seeking to follow Christ, choosing sexual purity is therefore not about missing out on life. It is about learning to live according to God's design. What Does Sexual Purity Mean? Sexual purity involves more than simply remaining a virgin. It includes how we thin...

There are moments in life when you observe patterns that make you pause and reflect. One pattern I have noticed over the years is what often happens after significant relationships come to an end. I have seen people whose marriages or long-term relationships ended, and afterward it seemed as though they lost momentum. In some cases, their confidence declined. Opportunities became fewer. Their influence appeared to diminish. Even among public figures, you sometimes notice that after a separation or divorce, one or both individuals struggle to maintain the same level of visibility, success, or impact they once enjoyed. Of course, every story is unique. We should never assume we know what someone is going through based on what we see from a distance. Life is complex, and relationships end for many different reasons. Yet these observations continually remind me of a timeless principle found in Scripture. God's Wisdom Was Never Meant to Be Ignored Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 says: ...