5 WAYS YOUR EX SPOILS & SABOTAGES YOUR NEW RELATIONSHIP

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Giving your ex a space in your life after a break up might not end up well. Your new relationship means that you emotionally and physically split up with your ex.
You need to concentrate on futuristic things and never allow past experiences with your ex detach you from your new soulmate.
This is how involvement with your ex devastates your current relationship:

1. Through your phone
Your ex either calls or send text messages with intentions of knowing how you are moving on. When your current partner gets to know that you are in contact with your ex, he/she might think that you are double-dealing them and question your commitment to him/her. Issues of mistrust begin and what follows is a breakup which pains even more.

2. Through your friends
Your ex may employ techniques to reach you through your friends. They are good at sugarcoating lies and persuading your friends who will share the news with you and probably your partner. Upon reaching your partner, the news will make him/her unhappy and weaken the bonding between you. Terminate any involvement with your ex and never give them a chance to tamper with your life.

3. Random unplanned visits
Your ex visits when you least expect it to happen. He/she may appear to turn up innocently but deep inside them, it's about causing trouble to your new relationship. Save yourself and never let your ex have a space to sabotage the new relationship you are building.

4. You are still into them
Though you are physically detached, there are quite some feelings that you have for your ex. You end up in a state of confusion where it will be difficult to make sound decisions and move on without involving them actively or passively. This situation is a relationship killer.

5. Through social media
Your ex likes, comments, or slides into your DMs just to remind you they still exist. A simple "miss those days" text or a like on an old photo is enough to stir up feelings you thought were buried. Your partner may stumble on this and feel betrayed, even if nothing "happened." Mute, unfollow, or block where necessary — closure sometimes needs boundaries, not just good intentions.

Your new relationship deserves your full presence, not a divided heart. Let go completely — not just physically, but emotionally too. Protect what God is building in your life; don't let yesterday's chapter rewrite today's story.

Which of these 5 have you experienced? Drop a number in the comments. 

© Ashubwe Jebel

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